CHANGE

 

Change, shift, switch, diversion and many other words, all that mean similar; but it’s something that most of us dread. Though it’s an inevitable thing in this universe. It is applicable to everything around including us ourselves. Eventually everything has to change and nothing is permanent. But we people often forget this harsh reality and expect that the things will forever be the same. At least most of us.

Everyone reacts in a different manner to the change. Actually how we react to the change tells a lot about how we are as a person. There are many books written about this but I found “who moved my cheese?” to be a simpler and easier one.

Generally there are basic two reactions to change. Either you accept it or you do not. Well, there is a phase in between it. It is the phase of transition or we can say adaption. Here we try to adjust to the fact that the change has indeed happed and that we have to get used to it.

Let us see different reactions of people to changes.

First category of people is the ones who easily accept the change. These are in fact the people who have awareness. They have already realized that the change is happening. They keep constant awareness of their surroundings and note the minor changes. Hence when eventually they are faced with major changes, they do not panic and instead take quick actions. In short they are always prepared.

Second category is also of the people who accept the change quickly even if they had not preconceived that the change is about to happen. They just quickly adapt to changes and just keep moving without thinking anything else.

Third variety is of the people who do not accept the change. They are just not ready to accept that such a thing can happen to them. They just sit around not taking any action, just waiting for things to be the way they were before. They believe that it was their right to experience the things the way they were prior to the change. They just keep victimizing themselves. At times they do not accept the help from other people who try to show them the other ways around.

Then there is this fourth category. Here initially they are also not ready to accept what has happened and mull over the change for a lot of time. They analyze and over analyze. Eventually they realize that they have wasted time and that they need to move on with the change; but their fears hold them back. After a lot of thinking they finally move out. Still afraid they keep moving and eventually reach a better place.

But what is it actually? When we say that change is inevitable or that it is eventually bound to happen in all the walks of life, does it have any advantages or do we just have to keep suffering these changes? Actually change helps to develop us. Whenever a change comes, in order to fit into the current situation we learn new skills; which in turn adds up to our knowledge. Either we fair or we win; but definitely we acquire something better that adds to our personal growth.

So whatever the change may be, however scared you may get, but learn to accept it and move on. That is the way this life is to be lead. This life is not about stagnation; instead it’s about the constant flow.

Be the river

And keep flowing

Don’t be the pond

That will eventually dry up

JJJ

BOREDOM

 

Boredom is defined differently at different places. We do not know what exactly it is, but we all do get bored at some point in time. Some people correlate it with not doing anything or an excuse that youngsters use to glorify their laziness.

But it has been noted that, despite of having so many things to keep oneself busy, people today feel boredom more compared to the times when there were fewer gadgets. Probably our minds do not know how to “not do anything at all”.

Right now I am feeling super bored, though I know there are a lot of things on my to-do list. But I just don’t feel like doing them at all. Sometimes, it’s been said that when the task at hand is uninteresting, it’s at such instances that we feel bored. But in my case I actually like the things that I am supposed to be accomplishing, yet I feel bored.

At times people who actually have all the affluences feel more bored, because they actually get overwhelmed.

Probably social media is also one of the reasons. We endlessly and aimlessly scroll through social media and in the end looking at all those similar things again and again we get bored. We use the energy we could have used at better places doing these useless things and end up tiring ourselves. Also a lot of time is wasted in all of this. As a result when we actually get to do the required things, we do not have any mental energy left and we leave the task incomplete.

Now what is the solution to this? Probably not theorizing and just forcing yourself to get up and just start doing what is necessary, because it has been observed by many that once you start some task then automatically you get your interest back, which in turn is a benefit as your work gets done. Or just starting with the things that you know feel you with energy and change your mood. So just stop dwelling in this boredom, get up and get going.

 

That’s Why She Reads

She reads when she wants to dive in the fantasy,

To forget her reality.

When she is not reading,

It means that she is happy.

When she is reading voraciously,

It means she wants to forget the pain she is going through.

 

She wants to calm that storm going on within.

She wants to hide it from all.

She is fine with others misunderstanding her,

For she feels comfortable in being wronged rather than explaining her side to others, only to find them not understanding it

GUILT TRIP

 An unwilling trip, that I take often

Which leaves me disheartened and shaken

That's the guilt trip

Which makes my brain flip

I feel guilty for being happy

For doing things that are peppy

For taking time for myself

For the things not done by thyself

For keeping me before others

For helping myself before others

For taking care of my body

And for protecting my psych from everybody

I feel guilty for not being of help to them

I feel guilty for not making them understand,

that they need to care for themselves first

I feel guilty because

I can't show them the unnecessary frustration they are in

They feel they are being selfless

But instead they are murdering their own selves

They have killed their identity

And now they always feel they need other's pity

They are guilty of acknowledging their pain

And feel that neglecting it would be sane

But now they have lost themselves

Have locked their desires in some old shelves

For their pain, I feel guilty

And at times silly

I can't be them

Because we are not the same

I believe in keeping my own self first

Or else I will be distressed

May be I can't help them

They themselves have to let go of all this self-condemn

CHANGE

He changed himself

For he thought they will like him better

Instead he created a new version

He no longer identifies by himself 

They don’t identify him either

Because they liked the older version

The thing that he was unaware of

Now he is liked by no one

Neither them

Nor him